mehexclamation: expressing a lack of interest or enthusiasm.adjective: uninspiring; unexceptional.
FYI—This investigation does not discount the need for the occasional shift of priorities so mom can have some down time to recuperate or dad can indulge a hobby to regain balance. Let's not be unreasonable.
Meh, mehself and I
The question to ask a person recently engaged to be married is 'So, why is s/he the one for you?' If you do not get a verbal response within five seconds, you might be right to be suspicious about that person's maturity and doubtful of his or her conviction. In fact, their silence is an answer. Of all the elderly couples I know or have known who have been married for decades and I have asked that question, almost always the first response issued within a split second is 'because I trust(ed) her/him'. Said trust is mutual in those relationships.
Marriage is an adventure, like going to war.—Gilbert K. Chesterton
Love is an act of the will not confined to a feeling. When feelings fade, love (gratitude, communion, respect) lasts. When bodies grow old, grow unattractive (in the minds of those who only see beauty as something skin deep), wither, and health fails, love lasts. When minds drift and collapse, love lasts. Love persists.
People in touch with their own fundamental dignity as persons created in the image and likeness of God tend to recognize that same dignity in others. A person who lives his or her dignity is the person with whom you want to make a lifelong covenant. Such a person will defend you when you are most vulnerable and protect you from harm by others who do not have any respect for the fundamental dignity of man.
Spouses defend each other and their covenantal bond through thick and thin. "Partners", by contrast, defend their individual right to happiness.
Let's be clear, there are some countries where one's spouse or the state or a doctor can terminate you without your consent simply because you are not seen for who you are. In such circumstances, those who would terminate you have chosen to see you for what you are, and what you are to them is some thing not worth keeping. In each and every one of those countries, which happen to be European, the drive for active euthanasia began with a seemingly innocent demand for relief from suffering.
Somehow the promoters of killing the terminally ill, for example, have forgotten that relief from severe pain is entirely possible. Powerful drugs are available which can provide the relief people need when facing otherwise debilitating pain. Relieved of pain, most people are able to face their conditions and, subsequently, desire to live life to its natural end.
If, during the course of the normal and ethical administration of painkillers, the painkillers hasten death, one can be assured that a moral course of action has been followed and no one need feel guilty that the painkillers, properly administered without the intent to kill, hastened death.
People in hospice—caregivers and patients alike—are aware of the true dignity of man, a dignity that should not be challenged by those seeking convenience over compassion. I.e., the convenient disposal of another person who has become an inconvenience to him or her.
With additional support from pastors, counsellors, friends and family, people facing a terminal illness manifest authentic dignity, a dignity that all heros manifest in the face of life threatening situations.
Heros have hope. Heros inspire others to face life's challenges with courage and confidence in God in Whose saving hands, so-to-speak, every faithful soul finds rest.