Fr. John Hardon, S.J. states, “The love of concupiscence, or self-interested love, means that another is loved for one’s own sake as something useful or pleasant to the one who loves. The love of friendship means selfless love of another for that person’s own sake, for his or her good, to please him or her; it is the love of benevolence.” In essence, Fr. Hardon is saying that love, true love, means willing the best of another. Love is not a feeling, or an emotion. Love is an act of the will. To will the best for another!